Do you embrace your desires?
You know, I really did judge my aspirations negatively for a long time. To tell you the honest to GodsnGoddesses truth, I still have problems with a couple of areas sometimes.
I used to allow myself to succumb to the notion that financial success equaled greed, different things I wanted – like a Chanel bag – signaled that I wasn’t aligned with the Universe. I sometimes still have trouble with thinking that focusing on my needs is selfish and wrong. Sometimes I hold myself back because I fear that allowing myself to shine meant I was an egoistic head-stepper-oner or asking for my fair share is greedy… I’m working on that!
Deep in my core, I know that I was ashamed of my desires for a long time.
- Ashamed of wanting to take time for my health, sanity, and personal development instead of focusing all of my energy on my home and children.
- Ashamed of desiring to live in the city so that I could have a robust social life and be healthier and more active (or so I imagine).
- Ashamed of protecting my space because others wanted to use it to propel themselves forward.
- Ashamed of shining the spotlight on what I do (a.k.a. making a living).
- Ashamed for asking for my fair share.
- Ashamed for wanting to cut people out of my life who just belittled me or dragged me down.
Ashamed… ashamed… ashamed…
That’s not the place that I want(ed) to operate from – guilt and shame in my core.
I can’t say that I don’t face conflict in meeting my needs and embracing my desires on a daily basis. I’m a sensitive person. It can be hard for me to be tough on others. I can say that I am working on it, though. It’s important for me to learn to embrace and even fulfill my desires – and it’s important for me to make sure I create an atmosphere in which I can thrive.
Actually, I just started working with a life coach to deal with some of my internal conflicts. Even coaches, like myself, do well with getting a coach. I’ve also had some excellent conversations with friends about these subjects, too.
By doing all of these things, I found out that my needs are just as important as anyone else’s. So are yours. I am allowed to have physical, spiritual, mental, emotional, financial, social, romantic, energetic, etc. aspirations – and one of my purposes on this earth is to make sure that those needs are fulfilled.
When I fulfill my desires, it makes me happier. I have more to give. I give happily instead of resentfully. I can create calm, peaceful space for others because that’s what I have inside myself.
When I take care of my own needs, I am a good role model for my family. When I ask for help, I allow others to feel the joy of giving.
I’ve gotta fill my own cup. I’ve gotta make myself happy. There is no shame in that – I’m not hurting anyone or stealing anything. And I do honestly temper my desires with the needs of my family.
And my desires – those things my soul really yearns for like moving to the city, like taking time to take care of myself, like having a career that I love – they are there to help me live a life that feels good.
When I live a life that feels good, I show others – by example – what living life focused on my own needs and desires helps me to be happier and more successful.
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