business advice

  • I don’t have any more energy for you…

    Sorry, but I’m not sorry. I simply don’t have the energy for lopsided relationships and full on requests to “take this burden for me so I don’t have to carry it.” I don’t have time for “just this little thing for free”; or give an inch, take a mile semi-expectations. I don’t want to reschedule sessions that you missed and didn’t even bother to call and cancel. If I was there and you weren’t, I’ve fulfilled my end of the bargain.

    It sounds harsh, but seriously… If you want my energy, there has to be some sort of exchange and the exchange should be fair.|

    I’m done with taking pennies on the dollar for the work I do. I’m not going to discount my prices so low that I can’t actually pay for my phone, computer, space rental (if you’re meeting me in Vienna), gas, parking, and childcare. I don’t want to stretch myself to the limits so you can remain comfy. Sorry. No can do.

    I have a family and a business. I have limited time and energy, and I’m not at all interested in endlessly giving my resources to people who don’t really seem to appreciate them. I need that energy for my children, my home, my hubby, my projects and passions. It may seem like my energy is boundless and infinite, but it has a definite end line which I am not interested in hitting. I’ve been dangerously close to that in the past.

    If I have to get a job outside of my home to support the work I’m doing for you, then I’m going to have to say no to you and get that job.

    It feels so hard to say no, though. Our society has pushed this idea of self-sacrifice and give til it hurts until we are… giving til it hurts. Some of my *ahem* business relationships (read volunteering my time and energy to fill someone else’s void without being paid very much, if at all) are having a negative impact not only on my own time and energy but also on my marriage and my children.

    My husband is not so understanding about why I might donate working hours to a virtual stranger and then not have time to do my mom or wife stuff—let alone to develop my OWN business or write my own book. My kids have sat, iPads in hand, while I’ve taken care of somebody else’s work for them. My hubby scrolled while I fretted over someone else’s work. Was I getting paid for my time, I’d have the money to hire a house cleaner or get a massage from time to time, or even pay a VA so that I could offload some of my own tasks. I’d have enough money to take some time off to spend with my kids and my man.

    This is something that, as spiritual and sensitive entrepreneurs, we have to learn to avoid and overcome. People like us LOVE to give—we love to make people happy and teach them to do things for themselves. We have to learn the difference between being generous and being enablers. We have to learn the difference between being honored and being taken advantage of.

    And as entrepreneurs, businesspeople, we have to understand that we just can’t give all of our time to others without being compensated for it. By “compensated for it,” I mean getting paid cash money. Money might not make the world go round, but it does help me honor my time and energy and the time and energy of others I interact with. It helps me put food on my table and gas in my car.

    My kids go to tennis two times a week. Their tennis trainer is a nice guy, but I’d never think to ask him to give my kids their lessons for free. Or just free until they got good enough to, you know, win some money in tournaments so that we could pay him to continue working for us!

    And I also go to healers and massage therapists from time to time. I’ve recently started seeing a woman who does pulsing in Vienna. When I go to her, I pay her for her time, her knowledge, and the resources (both internal and external) she’s using to work with me.

    The best lesson I can give a budding spiritual entrepreneur is to give the expectation of actually being paid for the time, wisdom, skill, effort, and the resources that person uses to serve me. I can lead by example. I give the people who work for me a baseline standard: their time is valuable and worthy of being paid a fair price. I expect the same in return.

    And note I said PRICE—not exchange, not trade. Far too often, budding entrepreneurs, as I mentioned above, are sucked into lopsided trades that don’t fully value their time, energy, efforts, resources, or even financial expenditures. I refuse to do that any more.

    The value placed on my time and energy is set by me. It’s my job to honor myself and say no to any business or charity relationship that doesn’t value what I put into the relationship. It might be hard, but being stretched to the point of breaking or actually getting another job to support myself so that I can work for other people is just not something that I am willing to do anymore. Ain’t nobody got time for that. Thanks but no thanks.

    *Please note that this doesn’t apply to my dearest friends and family. 


  • Value Your Gifts

    Lightworkers and Tarot Readers need to learn to value their gifts!

    It is funny, but not funny at all. When you work with Angels, tarot, and energy healing like I do, you find a lot of people who think that your gifts should be freely shared — without any benefit to you: the reader, the healer, the one with the gift!

    These people wouldn’t bat an eye about paying their accountant because he is a whiz with numbers. Nor would they think twice about paying a gifted stylist who could color and cut their hair like a pro. So why the difference between ‘us’ and ‘them’? Shouldn’t a gifted healer be paid a fee that suits his/her level of talent with healing, just like a doctor of Western Medicine? Shouldn’t a card reader be paid the same amount as a therapist of any other sort – especially when the end result would be the same?

    Most of us Tarot Readers and Lightworkers started like many other successful professionals. We recognized our gifts at a young age. We started working with them on a basic and natural level. Then we realized what our talents and interests were and we pursued knowledge. Many of us have studied (ravenously, continuously, and broadly) on our own. We’ve taken classes, courses, gotten attunements, practiced with and on friends and relatives. We’ve honed our crafts and learned to help others with them.

    We Lightworkers and Tarot Readers have put as much time and effort into learning about our gifts and how to use them as any person who has gone to college to get a degree so that they could pursue a job that they loved.

    But for whatever reason, some people don’t expect us to value our gifts and our efforts. They feel we should live in poverty and piousness – or they point to the olden times when healers and seers were revered tribe members who might not receive money for their services.

    They forget that we, too, have physical needs that have to be met.

    What they might not be aware of, and what you need to keep in mind as a Lightworker or Tarot Reader is that, in the olden days and in tribal cultures, the healers and shaman were given tokens of appreciation and gifts for their healing work. Their food, shelter, and clothing were provided to and for them by the tribe in return for their services. They didn’t go without. Their gifts were valued.

    And just because you are a Lightworker doesn’t mean that you don’t have a mortgage! Your physical needs aren’t less because you believe in and speak to Angels. Tarot Readers still have to purchase food, clothing, etc. Personally, if someone thinks that I should ‘get a job’ to pay for those things while asking for a reading or healing from me, well… I’d bless their heart and send them on their way!

    I’ve chosen Reiki, energy work, business mentoring, and card reading for a profession — or they have chosen me. And so that is the field I will work in. And, what I do IS WORK, too! I write, I sit down and devote time, effort, and energy to each and every one of my readings. I have administrative tasks, like emailing potential clients, advertising, travel to events, tracking expenses, etc. So the cost associated with a reading covers my time, effort, study, etc.

    Not to mention, what I do is a valuable service to begin with. The Reiki that I channel helps people to relax, unwind, de-stress, and put their bodies into states that allow for healing to occur. The card readings I give bring comfort, a different perspective, A-HA moments, and peace of mind. The advising I do revolves around increasing self-worth and value. All these things are worthy of payment.

    And really, money is the new form of energy exchange. The cash that you give out for a service or session represents the value that service or session has for you. Zero cost, zero value. People who are willing to invest in themselves and in their therapies tend to do better as a result. Those who pay for a reading might take the outcome or advice more seriously than those who don’t.

    Ultimately, as I mentioned before – this profession chose me and I chose it. I honor my gifts and feel they are valuable services to pass on to others, therefore, I will charge according to the value these gifts give to others and also for my time, education, and administrative costs. I am super generous – but I won’t give all of my gifts away to benefit others.

    What are your thoughts on this, and are you a Tarot Reader or Lightworker? Please feel free to leave a comment with your thoughts on the topic!


  • Top 5 Angel Business Tips

    Top 5

    Your calling is BIG. You know in your heart, spirit, and soul that you haven’t been put here to merely sit behind a desk, but to spread light and love across the planet.

    And so you’ve made healing, advising, SERVICE  your mission! You’ve studied and apprenticed and received attunements. You’ve taken all of the classes – and you’ve committed to making your spiritual work into your CAREER!


    Here are the top 5 business tips for Spiritual Teachers, Reiki/Energy Practitioners, Tarot Readers, Angel Intuitives, and Light Workers of all kinds.

    1) Value your modern, human needs.

    I know that you are a spirit in human form, and your material form has needs that are inherent to the situation. You need adequate sleep, nourishing food, a safe and secure home, clothing, downtime, a good dose of your own energy, and honestly, you probably need to make money from your spiritual career.

    The material side of the spiritual business can seem pretty icky and undesirable fodder for many Lightworkers. Many of us are driven by the need to serve over the need to receive. Some of us remember past lives as healers – where our needs (food, shelter, clothing, jewelry) were met in trade for our services. Others of us took a vow of poverty either in this life or past incarnations. This vow can greatly impede our ability to receive and feel comfortable with wealth that we generate through our healing work. Still others, Earth Angels and reincarnated angels of all sorts, only remember giving and not ever needing anything in return for helping others. They just don’t even consider charging for their gifts in the first place. Lightworkers and Earth Angels, in general, have a hard time accepting payment for their services.

    And then there is the negative light that has been cast on money, finances, and “rich people.” People have perpetuated the myth that all rich people are mean and greedy, money is evil, and accumulating it just isn’t spiritually aligned. When you think like that, you actually create blocks within yourself about wealth creation because you don’t want to be evil and greedy, so you subconsciously and energetically avoid attracting what repulses you!

    Consider this, though.

    The power of money lies in what you do with it and how you accumulate it. Money itself is not evil – it is a neutral tool that can be used for good or evil.

    Money can feed the poor, it can fund doctors and medicine for the sick, it can build homes for the homeless. It can be used for a VARIETY of good deeds and positive things.

    The more money and resources Lightworkers and Earth Angels have, the more they can use money for good!

    Your work is not only about changing your own life – but you know that already, don’t you? It is about changing the world and using your gifts for the good of yourself, your clients, your community, and the world!

    And please, please don’t project your needs or attitudes about money away from the current system or paradigm. You are living NOW and need to take care of your needs in the current economic system. Spewing contempt toward the current economic system and calling for its fail is a HUGE energy conflict. Avoid that conflict. Live now.

    One key to overcoming conflicts about receiving money for your gifts: Always remember that an energy exchange is a necessary part of any healing or advising ceremony. The common means of exchange right now is money. It is perfectly acceptable for others to use money as a means of energy exchange.

    2) Trust your intuition about business decisions and clients.

    People who are building their Lightworker practices often go against their intuition when dealing with clients. They take on people who aren’t an energetic match in order to grow their client base. They go against their instincts in business and in life in hopes that they will help their businesses.

    It just doesn’t work that way, and you know it! You ARE a highly intuitive being who USES those intuitions for others, so start using them to guide you in your business!

    If you get a hunch that a client isn’t going to benefit from your advice or services, refer them to a different practitioner. If you get the feeling that a particular gig isn’t going to serve you, pass. If you get the feeling that a client is going to skip out on the bill, demand payment in advance (that should be your MO anyway!). If someone you meet gives you the heebee-jeebies, get away!

    It is totally 100% OK to trust your intuitions and cues about people you work with and business opportunities that you create or that present themselves to you. Go with your hunches. Trust your gut. Listen to your Angels when they whisper warnings into your ears…

    And – of course – go full force into things that make you tingle and that your intuition shouts YES! YES! YES! about. Find ways to go down the paths that you are guided to. Follow the clues that the Universe gives you to find your ultimate successes in using your gifts.

    3) Don’t forget your practices

    Business life can be exhausting. It can be obsessive. It can drain your energy and still be hungry for more. That is why every Lightworker and Angelic Practitioner should be twice as conscious of keeping some sort of meditative, connecting, self-care practice going – and make time for it – on a daily basis.

    Shielding and cord cutting are also going to be necessities. If you don’t know how to shield your energy or cut your cords, I have a FAB cord cutting ritual for $4.44 (with meditation for $9.99). You can order it today!

    Also, do the small stuff with your family that is so important to keeping your bonds with them strong. Take time away from Twitter to rub your spouse’s back. Don’t let your children go without their evening ritual involving none other than you. Your business will grow, as will your children. Your latest blog post can get polished at 9 pm so you can have that half hour to read and snuggle with your littles.

    It’s not all about your business, but also about your life. Remember that. And remember…

    4) Your business is A BUSINESS!

    I totally get the fact that reading a tarot spread is much more fun than tallying the plusses and minuses from last month’s accounts. I understand rolling your eyes at having to track each and every deck of cards, cartridge of printer ink, webinar, and spiritual group you join so that you can deduct those from your taxes.

    And I totally, absolutely understand having issues with setting firm boundaries with clients. Oh. My. Gods and Goddesses, do I!

    But a business is a business, and it needs to be run like one. You need to track your income, the money you are spending, your clients, your time.

    You must be firm with late people, no-shows, or those who would like to have their 60 minute appointment actually last 2+ hours. Create a good client contract that details your specific rules and ethics (mine is here). Refer clients to it. Be consistent in using it. It is better to create good boundaries with the people you work with and for than to feel taken advantage of or actually get ripped off by a client who you have served.

    5) These things take time.

    This is a key point – it might take time to grow your business. You will have to make time to put into it, and you’ll have to keep at it, no matter what!

    It is so (so, soooo) important to realize that 1,000 people might not view your website on the first day it launches – or on the second, or on the sixtieth.

    You’ve gotta love what you are doing so much that it just doesn’t matter how long it takes to succeed, because you are in it to see it through to success!

    Patience. Consistency. Dedication. Belief. Faith. Those are all of the qualities you are going to need to hang tight to when you are growing your business! Tweet: Patience. Consistency. Dedication. Belief. Faith. Those are all of the qualities you are going to need to hang tight to when you are growing your business!

    Many Lightworkers and Earth Angels love what they do so much that it is hard for them to focus on the business aspect of their businesses. The tips mentioned above will help these kind and generous people to not only share their gifts in service of others, but also to share their gifts in service of their own needs.

    Are you ready to turn your calling into your career? Why not let me help you! I offer a free introductory session. The details are here: Biz Basics for Earth Angels and Sensitive Souls