Don’t Freak Out About A Bad Review

Don’t Freak Out About A Bad Review

  What should you do when you get a bad review? I see time and time again – people like you and me who are doing readings and putting their hearts and souls into their work – feeling down in the dumps about a bad review or negative feedback. Don’t worry, Sensitive Spiritual Entrepreneur! Bad reviews come with the territory. You have to learn to use some of the negative feedback you get to up your game – and also to fully appreciate the fact that you won’t please or connect well with everyone. Some of the clients even lie about their situations and then get mad at us for pointing out that we see the truth! Now, don’t think I am saying to ignore scores of bad reviews! If you are getting more bad reviews than good reviews, check your work. Are you giving your clients 100% of your attention or are you multitasking or having more than one conversation at a time? Are your kids making a lot of noise in the background? Is your connection clear and crisp, or do you need a new headset and microphone to chat on? Is your computer fast enough? Do you need to polish your psychic, communication, or typing skills? Are you staying logged in through the night, groggily answering chat requests when they wake you from a deep slumber? How’s your attitude? If bad reviews aren’t a common thing for you, then your bad review or feedback might be due to one of the following things: You don’t say what the client wants to hear Many of our clients are...
The Reality of Saying NO

The Reality of Saying NO

  What will happen if I say, NO!? I want to talk to you today about the reality of saying NO. If you are anything like me, you are thinking, “BWAH! Saying NO is better in theory than it is in practice!” Despite the fact that saying NO can help you to draw your proverbial lines in the sand and create necessary borders, it. is. hard. to. do. You know that – you’re a Sensitive Soul. When you say NO when you mean NO, there is usually kick-back. People who you had been bending over backward to please don’t get their satisfaction. Their mouths gape open and they look at you like you’ve gone insane. Or they shun you. Or they leave. Or they punish you for standing your ground. You see, we’ve been taught never to take no for an answer. We’ve been taught, “if at first you don’t succeed, try again.” And that makes it doubly difficult to stand behind saying no to something that you don’t want to do. For example, I will be very honest and say that I do NOT like teaching kids English in groups. I’ve worked in a middle school setting and I’ve worked with a small group of 2nd graders before – and I hated it. I dreaded going into work. I wanted to cry before the group sessions. Fifteen-year-olds cursed me out in class. I couldn’t keep the second graders under control – they were doing somersaults and cartwheels in class – even the kid I put in the corner ended up with a garbage can on his head, banging...
Want a FREE Tarot Reading?

Want a FREE Tarot Reading?

    Ahhh… The call of the free tarot reading. When someone advertises “freebies,” they generally get a line going around the block. I used to LOVE having reading parties! The energy was fantastic and I had a lot of fun… But free readings can be draining for a reader. They take time, energy, and resources. And then figuring out that I was reading for 30 or 40 or a hundred people who had no intention of actually buying a reading got frustrating. I’d see the same names over and over again on my free reading threads, but never once would many of those same people pay for a reading – even when I would run a “Pay What You Can” offer. That made me feel so unvalued and just plain old used, to tell you the truth. So, after more than a year of running an online tarot, oracle, and angel card reading business, and after having given away literally hundreds of free readings, I have decided to make some rules for my “free readings.” You’ll want to pay attention to these for future reference! 1) Each person can only have ONE free reading per year – unless they win a contest or send 3 referrals to me. Free readings are meant to be a sample of my work so that a person can see if they appreciate my style – they are not meant to be our only means of interacting with one another! I do notice the same people requesting free readings over and over again – so obviously they like what I have to say, but they just might not value my...
My Boundaries, My Responsibility

My Boundaries, My Responsibility

  Hold. The. Phone. This concept is HUGE! You have to define your boundaries for others to know what they are. HOLY COW! See, many of us Sensitive Souls have been walking around with our giving natures and generous hearts and not-at-all-well-defined boundaries… and then WE get frustrated from all of the taking that we allowed and often encouraged in the first place. We think that others are quite aware of boundaries because WE are subconsciously super-aware of them. Hmmmm… (I do this myself, so no judgment from me! I am just sharing my epiphany from this morning with y’all!) The people who we  interact with see our souls – they see that we are generous, that we were kind, and that we care for others. And they like that. They like the fact that we are generous – and that we are so quick to share with them. It’s part of their attraction to us. And we like the fact that we are generous and giving as well. Totally. We see it as a positive characteristic – well, I know I do… up to a point, that is! Where the issue arises  is often where the fence should have been posted – or 50 miles after that! You see, many Sensitive Souls say YES when they mean NO. We give in order to stop another person from hurting – even when we are aware that our generosity will hurt us. We have boundary issues.  Major boundary issues. And we need to learn to say NO! and honor our own needs, instead of getting frustrated when we are just so tired of giving to the same people over...
Letting Go of People You Don’t Need

Letting Go of People You Don’t Need

Wow. It seems kind of cruel when I put it that way, doesn’t it? Maybe that is why I avoided it to begin with.  But it is actually soooo necessary! You see, in this new-fangled world of social media and easy to find and contact people from every are of and time frame in life, it can be easy to allow people into your “circle” who just shouldn’t be there. As I heal myself, I am finding it easier to get rid of those people who drain me or who just don’t belong in my world.   Like everyone else, I have people from my past (and present) who are not at all friendly, or who I just get a weird vibe from. As a business woman, I was letting people who did not at all resonate with me or my message  – or who were this side of downright rude – stay on my pages because I wanted more “Likes.” I’ve decided that I can allow myself to drop these people from my world. I don’t need them – and I honestly don’t want them on my pages or in my life. And I am cool with it! I used to see denying those friend requests as being mean or rude in some way; now I know that it is kind of like pruning my life for the sake of my health. It’s enforcing my boundaries. It is protecting my space. If I see a post from someone who irritates me, it drags my energy down. THAT is something that I don’t need at all. I want to be surrounded by people who make me smile, make...
The Ickyness of Assertiveness – DO NOT CAVE IN!

The Ickyness of Assertiveness – DO NOT CAVE IN!

Man oh man, it can be so difficult to stick with the boundaries you’ve created – especially if you are a Sensitive Soul, Earth Angel, or Lightworker – because enforcing those boundaries can totally suck. Really. You might doubt yourself, your motives, your worth. You’ll likely think, “Who am I to want/desire/deserve all of this that I have created for myself?” and “I am being such an awful, mean, horrible, greedy bitch.” And others might actually TELL you that you are horrible, rotten, unfair, unworthy, mean… etc. They will question WHY and IF you actually need your resources for yourself, and they will try to make you feel like crap for restricting their access to your stuff! Close friends, lovers, relatives, longtime business partners who know you well will totally know which buttons to push and how to make you feel guiltiest about putting yourself first – it is an unfortunate truth. This is because they KNOW your kind soul and your deepest and most secret thoughts about your self-worth, they have a history with you, and they know exactly how to pull your strings to get you to give in.   Others – people in the fringes of your life – will continue to poke and pester you for the freebies, time, volunteering, work that you normally would have “generously donated” to them because they didn’t understand what an imposition on your time and energy their requests were or they simply didn’t care. You, my dear, are going to have to be FIRM. You will have to uphold your boundaries and RESIST THE TEMPTATION TO GIVE IN! And standing unwaveringly in the face of...