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  • 35 Things I’ve Learned About Myself And The World In 45 Years


    Hello Beautiful!

    The other day, I was relaxing in the bath. Really relaxing.

    It had been months, literally, since I had allowed myself to go so deep into my soul, doing nothing, just soaking in the hot, lavender and Epsom salt-laced water, letting my mind wander where it wanted to go.


    I thought to myself more than once, “This is soooooo nice.”

    And, of course, my thoughts turned to making more of my life just as pleasurable as the feeling of soaking in soothingly hot water.

    I NEED to bring more of this feeling into my life. I need to change things so that my shoulders aren’t up in my ears all of the time.

    Most of the time, I am acting from a state of grumpy “gotta get the things done” – even though I am not enjoying any of the things I am doing kind of place.

    Well, at least I had been doing that for the past couple of years.

    And it was wrecking havoc on me: my soul, my relationships – especially my relationship with myself.

    You see, despite the fact that I encourage others to care for themselves, to be honest with their needs, to make their lives into places of joy, excitement, and enthusiasm, I wasn’t doing any of that for myself.

    And it felt HORRIBLE.

    I was avoiding who I really, truly am and what I really, truly need.

    No more.

    I had to get totally honest with myself and with the Universe in order to actually create a life I am happy living in.

    I am going to reveal some of what I learned about/admitted to myself to you, in hopes it might help you connect more deeply with your true self and make changes in your life to bring more happiness, peace, and satisfaction to you.

    1) I am high maintenance. There. I said it.

    2) I LIKE taking time to take care of myself and having the resources and ability to do so.

    3) I like being surrounded by nice things – I love clothes that are soft and fit well. I like having beautiful dishes to eat off of and art to look at.

    4) I like a clean, good smelling, tastefully decorated home. Clutter makes me feel claustrophobic and blocked.

    5) I like to look good. Looking good requires work – and that work, the effort actually makes me feel good, too.

    6) I need daily, sweaty exercise. The sweatier the better.

    7) I like orgasms. Who doesn’t? LOL!

    8) My mind is high maintenance.

    9) I need challenges and to learn new things. I am constantly curious and sometimes obsessed.

    10) I like, need, and desire to have friends who understand me and who I understand. I need to spend time with them, too – not just internet friends (who I love – it just isn’t the same)

    11) BATHS FEEL GOOD! You’re likely to have some monumentally epic thoughts in the bath or while in deep relaxation. Therefore, taking time to relax is actually productive!

    12) People need to touch themselves in both sexual and non-sexual ways. Self-touch is so underrated, except when talking about masturbation. Of course, people need to know what they like and don’t like sexually, but they should also take time to learn to do self-massage and to lovingly caress their bodies.

    13) Speaking of non-sexual touch – people NEED that from other people, too. Hugs, pats, massages by licensed practitioners. I think touch is essential for a person to THRIVE (my word of the year).

    14) It doesn’t really matter about other people’s perceptions of a situation. You know best what you thought and how you felt about what happened. Even if someone experienced something differently than you did, it doesn’t discount the way YOU interpreted the exchange or interaction. (one of the lessons we are learning from #metoo  “apologies”)

    15) Communication often leads to understanding. And being open and honest can be HARD, so hard. But it is necessary for your relationships and to fully comprehend the other person’s intentions and motivations.

    16) No one is a mind reader. Seriously. Get over trying to hint or full on think someone else should just know what you want or what you are thinking. Express yourself!

    17) People often soften with age, wisdom, and experience.

    18) I am NOT the same person I was 20 years ago, and that is fine with me! Seriously, I would not go back to my 25-year-old mind, although I wouldn’t mind having my body from then! 😉

    19) Honesty is like gold (so is vulnerability). Seriously. I need to be more honest with myself and EXPRESS that. Quit hiding who I truly am, scars, flaws, and all.

    20) You will never get the time back that you could have spent with your loved ones, especially your kids, and it is very likely you will regret it. Make time for the people you love. Spend time with them. Nurture relationships.

    21) I need time in nature. I adore the calm, peaceful feeling that I get when walking through the woods. It’s almost like a bath – inspiration, inner peace, totally necessary!

    22) I’m extremely sensitive to what I eat. I have to learn this again and again. I do best with fruits, veggies, fish, and grains (no wheat, though) – and very little meat. Not too much processed. Good thing I like to cook!

    23) It doesn’t matter what works for other people. If it doesn’t work for me, it doesn’t work. Period.

    24) I have to avoid mean, toxic people. Even though I get a charge out of arguing my point, I tend to flog dead horses and keep at it, even though arguing makes me grantig (the German word for grumpy, ornery) and just not the person I want to be.

    25) This one might be the most important one on the list: I AM the one with the power to change my life. You are, too, for your life. There is no one in the world who has more power over what I do, how I spend my time, what I focus on, how I behave and react than I do. Others might influence me, but at the end of the day, the power to change or stay the same is MINE.

    26) It’s OK to say NO and to say YES! You can even say NO after you’ve said YES!

    27) Creativity is essential to my well-being.

    28) So is music.

    29) You have to start where you are. Period. Your starting place, if you think about it from a different perspective, is another person’s finish line!

    30) You can’t really control what other people do. Don’t try to push your advice or agenda onto others. Keep your focus on what you can control.

    31) Speaking of other people, the saying that they might not be against you but for themselves is sooo true. Don’t assume that someone is fighting you to go against you. Try to see if what you want is actually against their needs.

    32) Boundaries are so important, too. Even if someone else needs or wants something from you, you aren’t obligated to give. You have every right to impose and protect your boundaries. Think of them not as fences, but as the edge of your existence.

    33) Great adventures require great leaps of faith. I gave it all up (house, career, etc.) when I moved to Austria 12 years ago. I wouldn’t change that for the world!

    34) Sometimes you have to trust – the people around you, the Universe, yourself.

    35) Being a mom/parent is HARD. It’s like the biggest, most important puzzle/mind-fuck ever. You will likely never feel like you are doing the right thing, and the outcome is based on much more than you can control. (See #30)

    Boy, I think that is enough wisdom for now! I could likely go on and on and on! LOL!

    I would love to wish you and yours the happiest 2018 imaginable!

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  • Finding The Best Version Of You

    At the close of my Monday morning yoga class, the instructor invited us to spend the next week connecting with and being the best versions of ourselves.

    That got me thinking – what IS the best version of me? What does she do on a daily basis? How does she act and react?

    And more importantly – am I being her now?

    Um. I know the answer to that – NO! LOL!

    I’ve slipped. Fell off the proverbial wagon. Let some things slide.

    It’s OK, though. I’m human. It’s not so much about being perfect all of the time as it is to correct yourself when you find yourself faltering.

    I always encourage people to start where they are and with a plan for what they’d like to do/be. For example, my list looks like this:

    I’d like to be kinder – to debate less and understand more.
    I’d like to be stronger and healthier – to replace bad habits with good habits.
    I’d like to be there more for my kids – to enjoy the time I have with them.
    I’d like to be a more successful business person – to share from the heart and help one person at a time.
    I’d like to be better with money – to plan for the future while taking care of the present day.
    I’d like to be more spiritual – to get back in line with my practices and feel even more centered and connected.

    Everybody has to start somewhere! No matter if that person is (or looks like) an expert, he or she was once a novice. The fittest bodybuilders started oftentimes with average or below average bodies. Gurus took time to gain wisdom and apply it to their lives.

    And sometimes, it’s not all about how much you have left to do, but where you are today compared to where you were last year – or even 2 or 5 years ago.

    How far have you come? Do you give yourself credit for the successes you’ve had and progress you’ve made?

    Are you still heading to where you’d like to see yourself?

    It might be wise to try, each and every morning, to connect with your best self. I know some of my friends have been talking about this lately, like Joanna Hennon. She’s onto something!

    When you connect with your best self and figure out what he or she is doing daily, you start making those things YOUR habits. You start to embody your best self.

    And that is when the magic happens.

    That’s when changes start to occur.

    They might be subtle at first, like being in a better mood, less tired, feeling supported by the people around you, etc. But then the effects snowball into more happiness and success, better relationships with others, feeling nurtured and nurturing others.

    By doing the things your best self would do, you BECOME YOUR BEST SELF!!

    So, what can you do to find the best version of you?

    • Be honest with yourself! What gets you excited? What makes you yawn?
    • What goals do you have? Be specific about where you’d like to see yourself, both longer-term and shorter term.
    • Find someone you admire. Specify what you admire about that person. Do any of those characteristics suit you?
    • Meditate. Give your imagination space to really visualize you being the person you want to be.
    • Be patient. Change takes time. Don’t get discouraged.
    • Get back on the wagon. If you fall off, pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and hop right back on! And don’t carry a load of guilt on your shoulder. It won’t help you!
    • Find supportive friends. If you can join a group of people who have the same or similar goals, you’ll get a lot of support and likely some good tips along the way!

    Do you need support and guidance to figure out just what your best self does, who she/he is, and how to get from where you are to where you want to be? Would you like 1:1 support? Schedule a session today!

    I can support you in various ways, starting with a tarot reading to see where you are now, adding some life coaching to see what you need to do, and even working in your energetic field to clear blockages and get our chakras balanced.

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  • Hey, Beautiful – January 29th, 2015



    Hey, Beautiful!

    Today’s Assignment is fairly easy. Try something new.

    What should you try? Whatever has been piquing your curiosity lately. Have you seen a class you would like to take, a book from a new author, a hairstyle you would like to try, a new restaurant? Give it a whirl – try it out and see how you like it!

    You might be pleasantly surprised.


  • Hey, Beautiful – January 26th, 2015

    Smashing ANTS

    Hello, Beautiful!

    You know you are beautiful, right?! I hope so! You do so much for other people, give from the heart, work hard, provide support – all the things that you need to remember to do for yourself!

    Yesterday, we talked about listening to the cues that you are getting from your mind, body, and soul. Today – and I know it sounds like a 180 – I want to talk about when NOT to listen to yourself…

    Today’s assignment is about recognizing Automatic Negative Thoughts or ANTs and stopping them in their tracks.

    ANTS are not good. They hold you back from reaching for your dreams. They zap your confidence and can lead to depression – especially if you listen to them or allow them to spiral in your thoughts. They must be stopped!

    How do you stop them?

    First, recognize an invading ANT right when it is happening. The next time you realize you are thinking you are too (fill in negative comment)  to (fill in cool thing that you want in your life), stop right there!

    Take a look at that negative thought. Is it true? Is it yours or did someone else plant that thought in your head? Is whatever it is big enough, strong enough, or important enough to keep you from doing or accomplishing what you really want to do?

    How to beat the ANT:

    You have the option of telling yourself that the ANT is simply not true.

    If it is true, tell yourself you will not allow it to hold you back from forward motion.

    Flick that thought away. Imagine the thought as an actual ANT and flick it or squish it. (It feels good to squish those negative thoughts).

    Find an internal representation of yourself – a strong woman figure (you) – and have her simply step on the ANT.

    Stop yourself mid-thought and refuse to even allow yourself to think negatively about yourself any longer (that is my choice 99% of the time!).

    ANT smashing can take some practice, but it is totally worth it!




  • Hey, Beautiful – January 20th, 2015

    Be careful how

    Hey, Beautiful!

    Today’s Assignment will start today and be carried on throughout the rest of the year. It is IMPORTANT!

    Get ready…

    From today on, you will start talking to and about yourself as if you care about and love yourself. Gone are the days of berating and belittling yourself in your internal dialogue; done are the times that you speak poorly about yourself.

    From this moment forward, you will recognize and STOP any negative things you might want to say about yourself before the words come out or before you complete the thoughts.

    Your mission is to pick yourself up; recognize yourself for the valuable, beautiful, perfect, interesting person you are; accepting yourself; loving yourself. That starts with how you talk to and about yourself.

    Good luck!