Ugh. This is one phrase that I cannot stand: Aren’t YOU a little sensitive?
Um. Yes. Yes I am. Absolutely and unapologetically.
You see, I was born sensitive. I feel emotions strongly. I react to chemicals and energies and snarky comments from insensitive asshats.
I am empathetic, intuitive, tuned-in. Things others might miss are quite obvious to me – body language, tone of voice, cues that I don’t have a name for but that I still pick up.
And I actually think that sensitivity is a blessing, not a flaw. I love being able to connect with others on a level that is really cognizant of and considerate to the depth of the emotions other people have.
I almost always treat other people kindly – using tact, manners, and… well… sensitivity! I try so hard – even when people are acting like insensitive monsters, I try to just realize that they might be taking their inner turmoil out on whoever happens to pass their way – especially if they know that the person they are spewing at will likely turn the other cheek and walk the fuck away.
People who radiate negative energy, insulting others any chance they get, are usually the people who ask, ‘Aren’t YOU being sensitive?’
My question to them is, ‘Aren’t you being INSENSITIVE?’
If you have a friend or loved one who heaps their negative mojo on you and then asks you, ‘Aren’t you being sensitive?’ when you react, that might be a person you want to avoid as much as possible!
If someone you adore is the one hurling the manure, have a little chat with him or her to let that person know that the comments that s/he is making really hurt your feelings and you’d like to continue the relationship sans coarse or inconsiderate comments.
Framing one’s insensitivity as another’s sensitivity can be a sign of verbal abuse at worse, or a cry for help, corrective action, and love at best. If you can, try to limit your interaction with people continue to be disrespectful of your feelings. You don’t need that.
Create loving boundaries. Protect your feelings. Honor your sensitivity.